Confirm a populated public venue, arrange your own transportation, share the plan, charge your phone, protect private information, and leave whenever you feel uncomfortable.
Before you leave
Complete these items while you still have time to change the plan.
- Confirm the person's name and the exact venue
- Check opening hours, address, lighting, and transportation
- Tell a trusted person where you are going and when you expect to return
- Arrange an agreed check-in time
- Charge your phone and keep emergency contacts accessible
- Avoid sharing your home address for pickup
- Carry your own payment method and return-transport option
During the meeting
Keep your choices reversible and pay attention to whether your boundaries are respected.
- Stay in the agreed public setting
- Keep drinks, phone, and belongings in your control
- Do not share passwords, financial details, or identity documents
- Decline unexpected moves to private or isolated locations
- Leave if you feel pressured, unsafe, or simply uncomfortable
Send the plan to someone you trust
Share the person's name, the exact venue, the meeting time, and when you expect to check in. A useful message is: "I'm meeting Sam at Greenhouse Café, 12 Market Street, at 6:30 PM. I expect to leave around 8. I'll message you when I'm home."
If the location changes
Update your trusted contact before moving somewhere else. You can decline any last-minute change, especially a move to a home, hotel room, vehicle, or isolated place.
After the meeting
Let your trusted contact know you are safe. If the interaction involved harassment, threats, fraud, or suspicious behavior, preserve relevant messages and use the report tools offered by the platform where you connected.
If you need help
In an immediate emergency, contact local emergency services. In the United States, RAINN offers free, confidential support through its National Sexual Assault Hotline.
Sources and further reading
Safety guidance is informational and cannot guarantee an outcome. Review these primary resources for more detail.
Common questions
Should I send the checklist to my date?
You do not need to. It is primarily a personal planning tool and a prompt for sharing the confirmed plan with someone you trust.
Can Request to Meet verify the other person's identity?
No. Request to Meet organizes an invitation and response; it does not verify identity, background, intentions, or offline safety.
Turn the advice into a clear plan
Choose one public place, offer up to three times, and share a private Meet Request. The recipient can choose what works without another long scheduling thread.
Send a Meet Request →